I hope you’ve been able to find a moment of peace this week. Following the deeply personal stories I shared last week about my losses, Sage and Willow, I know we are walking this path of remembrance and healing together.
** Holding Space for Shared Grief:
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** Jessie’s Story
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Jessie was joyfully anticipating the birth of her little girl. She talked to her, connected with her, and loved her fiercely. About halfway through the pregnancy, however, Jessie had a deep, unsettling feeling that something wasn’t quite right.
An ultrasound confirmed her fears: her precious daughter, whom they named Vera, had a congenital defect (https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/birth-defects) that would not allow her to live outside of the womb. Jessie and her husband faced an unimaginable decision. They could continue the pregnancy, waiting for Jessie’s body to naturally go into labor, or they could choose to induce labor now, allowing Jessie’s body and heart to begin the work of rest and grief.
They chose the latter, and with deep sadness, they held their stillborn little girl just a few days later. As they grieved, Jessie and her husband leaned on each other, holding each other physically and emotionally.
But after the funeral, something shifted. Well-meaning friends told Jessie’s husband he needed to be “strong for her,” and that he shouldn’t let her see his own grief. He listened, believing this was the way to support his wife.
This choice, born out of cultural expectation, was damaging. Jessie felt him pull back, and the distance led to increased conflict. Eventually, in a moment of anger and pain, she asked him why he had changed. He explained what he had been told, and in that raw, tearful moment, they both realized the profound damage that our society’s unhelpful expectations had created in their relationship.
They started to heal through the pain together again, now determined to share a vital message: Grief is a deeply personal journey, and while men and women may grieve differently, hiding vulnerability from each other is deeply damaging. It doesn’t matter what others say—a mother and father need to be allowed to grieve with each other, not stand separately and “strong” for each other.
** You Are Not Alone: A Note on the Numbers
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Sometimes, when we feel the deep isolation of loss, the raw facts can offer a strange kind of comfort—a reminder of how very many of us share this silent experience. This is information to hold gently, not as statistics, but as a confirmation that your pain is real, valid, and shared by a vast community of hearts.
* Miscarriage is Common: It is estimated that anywhere from 10% to 20% of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage (loss before 20 weeks). Some research suggests the number may be as high as 30% or more when factoring in losses before a pregnancy is confirmed. If you have experienced this, please know that you are not alone; it is the most common complication of pregnancy.
* A Hidden Reality: In the United States alone, approximately 21,000 babies are stillborn (loss at or after 20 weeks of pregnancy) each year. This is roughly 1 in every 175 births, a number that is heartbreakingly similar to the number of babies who pass away during their first year of life.
* The Shared Experience: While the circumstances and timing of each loss are unique, the emotional toll is universal. We are connected through this journey of motherly love and grief.
My intention in sharing these numbers is only to break the silence and to wrap you in the knowledge that millions of families around the world are navigating this path alongside you. Your experience, however it unfolded, is part of a larger, profound human story.
** Free Event: The Heart of Grieving
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Grief has many layers—some sharp, some quiet, some unspoken. It’s not something to “fix” or hide; it is something to hold. In this special two-hour session, I will open a sacred, non-judgmental space for us to lean in together and explore what that means.
** What You Can Expect
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* An honest and open conversation about the heart of grieving pregnancy and infant loss.
* Live sample sessions where I demonstrate the gentle power of Emotion Code and Heart Code work. This is a powerful chance to witness how energy healing can release stored emotional and traumatic pain, creating space for peace, love, and remembrance.
** Seeking Volunteers
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I am seeking three volunteers who are willing to be gently guided in a live, mini-demo session during the event. This is an opportunity to experience an introduction to this healing work firsthand within a supportive community.
If you feel called to participate and take this vulnerable step toward healing, please reply to this email—I would be honored to walk with you.
** Event Details
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When: Tuesday, October 15
Time: 8:30-10:30 AM EST
Cost: Free, thoughregistration is required (https://twoheartshealing.info/contact/the-heart-of-grieving-registration/) .
Register Here (https://twoheartshealing.info/contact/the-heart-of-grieving-registration/)
** Healing Resources & Next Week’s Focus
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As we focus on this journey, please remember that I am here to support your personal process of healing and remembrance.
** The Pregnancy/Infant Loss Bundle
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For the month of October, the Pregnancy/Infant Loss Bundle (https://twoheartshealing.info/packages-products-and-services/) is available for $240 (a savings of 40% off the regular price of $400).
This package of three 45-minute sessions is designed to help you:
* Release emotions and traumatic energy around your loss.
* Protect a home in your heart for your eternal motherly love.
* Create alignment with bringing your child and your heart with you into the future.
To purchase, please visit my website (https://twoheartshealing.info/packages-products-and-services/) and use coupon code PAIL25 at checkout.
** Looking Ahead: Answering Your Questions
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For those of you holding the pain of pregnancy or infant loss, or supporting someone who is, next week’s issue will focus on tangible support and professional guidance. Please know your experience is seen and heard. If you have any questions you would like addressed, email me at [email protected], and I will do my best to answer them in next week’s newsletter.